Hilary Duff Gets Brutally Honest About Her Kids: ‘I Don’t Always Like Them’

Out of the many former Disney Channel stars, Hilary Duff has carved out one of the most unique spaces in pop culture. Since the end of Lizzie McGuire, she has never disappeared from the zeitgeist. Yet the now-34-year-old has never shown much interest in capturing the level of A-list celebrity some of her peers have achieved.

Duff has made some intentional decisions to stick to projects she cares about. Throughout a prior marriage and divorce, she has always focused on her family. In fact, Duff’s penchant for disarming honesty in interviews applies just as well to her family as anything else.

Duff has one of the healthier approaches to being the sort of celebrity paparazzi will follow around incessantly. The 2000s actor-turned-pop-star spends the public-facing part of her days mostly sharing content about her idyllic family life. She’s an open book when it comes to that sort of thing.

After a tumultuous marriage to hockey player Mike Comrie, the father of her first child, Duff married singer-songwriter Matthew Koma. The former Disney star had two more children with the powerhouse producer. She insists that soulmates “aren’t real” but has nothing but great things to say about their romance.

During the COVID-19 pandemic lockdown era, in particular, Duff made a point of turning her once-private relationship into an open book on social media. She seems much happier.

Much of the Lizzie McGuire star’s social media content is as charming as humanly possible. Duff’s Instagram is full of descriptions of her daily routine with her three children.

But given her caustic sense of humor, she’s more willing than most celebrities to speak up on the difficult parts of parenthood.

Duff wrote about the topic for Refinery29 at the height of the pandemic lockdown in 2020. It was a time when many parents found themselves at home, often still having to work. Guilt was a common theme for many parents, who felt increasingly frustrated by juggling parenthood alongside other high-pressure adult responsibilities.

“I love my kids more than anything,” she wrote. “I cannot imagine not being a parent. But I don’t always like them.” Strangely, this was exactly the sort of sentiment many parents needed to hear.

She highlighted the idea that being frustrated with your children is perfectly natural and expected even. Your job is to help form them into functional adults. The path to getting there will be littered with real frustration.